Wednesday, April 3, 2013

The Center of Focus

The topic of this post is one I've been thinking about a lot lately, hence no update in a while. It took me some time to really formulate how I think this works, but I think I've come up with it.  I had to do a lot of playing around on Microsoft Paint in the process, so bare with me. Also, if you've yet to read "Fundamental Principles" (the post below), I recommend you do that first, that way this can make the most sense.

In "Fundamental Principles" I spoke about how striving for happiness sets it inside the realm of pursuit, thus becoming unobtainable. How one must learn to be happy by knowing oneself as already whole, and not looking for satisfaction but instead enjoyment, by things or factors that live outside of ourselves.  In this post, I'm going to break down the actual process.

This is the essence of who you are (self):




This, is your Body:




Simple enough.  

Added together, this is YOU:







Now lets call this, the World:







Now, jumping into my point, lets start with the example of SIGHT.



sight 


 


/sīt/
Noun
The faculty or power of seeing.


However, "sight" does not solely depend on our eyes because there are many people in this world that are without them and function just as sufficient as those with them.  What allows this to work for people with or without eyes is FOCUS.


fo·cus  

/ˈfōkəs/
Noun
The center of interest or activity.
Verb
(of a person or their eyes) Adapt to the prevailing level of light and become able to see clearly.



"The center of interest or activity."

So, if a person depends on their PHYSICAL eyeballs to grant them their sight, then they are then able to PHYSICALLY see the PHYSICAL world, thus their focus being on the PHYSICAL.  That then, defines their definition of what seeing clearly is, so to them - the physical. 


Now a person who is without physical eyeballs or just without the ability of them, is then unable to set their "center of activity" on physical sight to physically see the physical world.  So perhaps they use their sense of touch, so that then essentially "sets" their "center of activity" at their skin. Therefore, their PERCEPTION of what the world is takes place at their "center of activity"; their skin.




per·cep·tion  

/pərˈsepSHən/
Noun
  1. The ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses.
  2. The state of being or process of becoming aware of something in such a way.




Let's use an example of a blind man- perhaps he views and defines the world by touch. What touch he likes, what touch he doesn't.  This man would notice the scratchiness of someone's jacket before anyone who didn't have emphasis, or focus, on touch.  We say that people who are without a sense are much more "in tune" with their other senses because they rely on them more, but is it really reliance or focus?  

Apply this to any sense.  A blind man that relies, or focuses on smell.  He might walk out in DISGUST of someone's home that has a full to the lid trash can.  The interesting part here is how the situation would be handled. This man walked out in DISGUST. People may say, "He's blind and relies more on smell, therefore his sense of smell is better than ours, it just bothers him more."  I argue against that.  I say this man's FOCUS and definition of the world is through the sense of smell, he left in disgust and thinks little of this environment, based on his actions, after what he just smelled.  He didn't notice it because of a "better sense of smell" he noticed it because of his emphasis on the importance of smell, meaning what he values all the way to what he despises, due to his "center of activity" of where his perception of the world is formed.  Essentially how he judges and interprets it.


Watch this now.


Someone has all physical senses working properly physically, and this person utilizes them all.  She listens, speaks, sees, smells, and touches. She goes on a blind date and fakes a sick sister at home to leave early all because she knew she would never sleep with the guy because of his terrible acne.  

Would we say that her eyes work better than ours because she noticed his acne? 

All she's done here is demonstrated her emphasis on what she thinks is important, due to her "center of activity" where her perception of the world is formed.  Her "center of activity" is at her eyes.  Using the physical to see the physical; thus giving her personal value a direction.

Now, to use the physical to view the world, you rely on your physical senses which are of the body, because its physical, which makes sense right?

Let me demonstrate.



So, to rely on your senses, one's SELF then moves to align with the BODY, thus to interpret the world. 



VIEWING




PERCEIVING









The "the center of activity" happening along the body, where the information/sensory input/output exists.




So then knowing this, its only logical that a line of vision is created, right?  Just as it physically occurs.  When there is a focal point there is accompanying peripheral vision.

(The focal point to be ever changing).




As stated before, perception takes place at our "center of activity", demonstrated below.



Okay, so its seen here then that relying on our physical senses to tell us what the world is brings our self focus to our body.  Placing ourselves in the world then looks a little something like this...


Look at how much is out of  sight. 


This post is not geared with an emphasis on metaphysical.  This is just one example.  I showed that if your focus and perception rest on physical, you will only be able to see what's physical.



Lets move now to other applications.



If your focus is only on education then all you see is education. But then what senses or processes does education rest on?  Seeing to read, thought processes to think, developing ideas, all of these are what you use, see, develop, and define the world with. If your focus is only on sports, all you see is sports, you may define the world with sports, your choice in friends probably have an appreciation for it as well, you sign your kids up for T-ball.  

Value speaks value.  The things you think are important, you give your focus to.  They then are what you invest in and see the results of.  If you don't give a hoot about dragon hunting in Romania, then you don't know a thing about it, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.  

Just because one's peripheral doesn't extend to it does not mean that it does not exist.  

But let me ask this.  What if you didn't know that dragon hunting in Romania existed? But when you heard that I said it, it sparked an interest, and you followed it?  You had never known of it prior to today.  How often does that happen?  There is so much that we have yet to have an awareness of, when will it present itself?  We can't search for things that we don't know exist, right?!  So we must wait.  But to do that.. 

We must abolish peripheral vision.  The only way that we can truly open up to everything around us, is to move our focus.  

Back to YOU:




Now in this case here you are, with a focus on yourself.  You are in the center of your body. You are centered.  You are not shifting yourself in any one direction inside of yourself because to do so would then be giving a personal characteristic focus, thus focus would not be on YOU. To give one part of yourself focus you then are IDENTIFYING yourself as that characteristic. Also, you would be neglecting another part of yourself, and with a focus on yourself not one thing can be neglected.  

Let me explain with an example.  You are funny.  Identifying yourself as funny is to shift your focus on being funny.  Neglecting attention to "sensitive" or "rude".  Not an even spread.  DEAD CENTER, because you gave [your] LIFE to something outside of your center,  but when your focus is on being you, you are giving LIFE TO YOU.


YOU + SELF = YOURSELF

LIFE + BEING = LIVING


See below,



Notice a few things here.  By becoming YOU, you have shifted your "center of activity" to the center of yourself.  First you can see that peripheral doesn't exist since your "vision" has been expanded by the acceptance of EVERYTHING.  Also, by moving SELF FOCUS away from the body, you now have room for experience; you have space for emotions, knowledge, new wisdom. 


Where as, here:



There was is room for experience, only perception and in turn, judgement.
Notice: Only one color.




Being CENTERED allows for self growth by every experience because not only is there room for experience inside of yourself, but there is room to grow!  See how literal the phrase "room to grow" is?!  In the picture above, there is no space, LITERALLY.



Okay, now that's bring this concept to another application.




CONFLICT RESOLUTION

What happens when you think there is a problem?  You bring into consideration everything you know, evaluate the problem, and attempt to fix it.  But what happens when a problem arises when you are not centered?


This.




The area of the problem is all you see.  So therefore, when assessing the means to fix it by looking to everything you know, all you know is essentially the section in which the problem lives.  How can you fix the problem when the only resources you know of are "problem creators"?

I'm going to give this an example.  We'll use relationships between people. 

Person 1 sees a problem.  The problem is, the dishes are dirty, and Person 1 has peripherals set.  So when evaluating the problem, Person 1 identifies all factors.  "The dishes are dirty".  "I am angry".  "They are in the sink".  "I did all the dirty dishes last night".  "Person 2 was home earlier".  "They are Person 2's dishes".  "Person 2 did not do their dishes".  "The dishes can't do themselves, they don't have arms, it is Person 2's responsibility to do the dishes". "I am angry that Person 2 did not do their dishes" -> "I am angry at Person 2".

Since it is established that the dishes are unable to clean themselves, Person 1 becomes angry at Person 2.  The problem is no longer that the dishes are dirty (dishes cannot clean themselves).  The problem is that Person 2 neglected their responsibility of doing the dishes.

Person 1 now rationalizes reasons why Person 2 neglected their responsibility.  "They are lazy".  "They are a dirty person".  "They don't care that I don't like it".  "They want me to do all the work".

So now with this new problem at hand, Person 1 relays the issue to Person 2.  Presenting "You didn't do the dishes.  You are lazy, you are a dirty person, you don't care about me, you want me to do all the work".  Essentially stating, "You are the problem".

Now, this could be handled by Person 2 in a number of ways, depending on where they hold their Self Focus.  They hear the problem, "I didn't do the dishes because I am a lazy and dirty person, I don't care about others and want them to do all the work."  Evaluating the problem, they decide that none of these things are true.  Now, if using peripheral vision as well, their evaluated factors of where the problem came from, as well as resolution resources, are also limited.  "Person 2 thinks I'm lazy, but I'm not, they must need to bring me down because they feel lazy themselves.  Or Person 2 thinks I'm lazy because they are a "go-getter" and have crazy expectations for others.  Person 1 thinks I'm lazy because they are a clean freak" (and so on). The problem is then addressed as such.  


Demonstrated below:







But had Person 2 been centered, and the situation may have looked a bit similar to this:





See the difference in FOCUS




In this situation Person 1 would still approach the situation in the same manner as in the first example.  But this time, Person 2 would have much more resource in fixing the problem.  The problem presented being, "You didn't do the dishes.  You are a lazy and dirty person, you don't care about me, you want me to do all the work".  Notice how not only the expansion of resources in Person 2's vision, but ALSO! notice how Person 1 does not sit in Person 2's vision!  When evaluating the presented problem, Person 2 does not even consider Person 1 as part of the problem nor as a part of the solution.  Meaning, it can not be "Person 1's fault".

Revealing that, Person 2's response can be predicted completely different than in the first example.  Person 2 might say, "Do you feel that the dishes being dirty is the problem or is the problem the flaws you see in my character?"  This would be asked for mere clarification by Person 2.  Person 1 would be forced to think their way through problem identification and may say, "I feel that way about you because you didn't do the dishes".  It would be silly, and pretty illogical to create all of those feelings over one event of dirty dishes.  So that may bring Person 1 to say, "I've felt like this for a while; the problem is the dirty dish event in conjunction with Past Event A, B, and C".  Then the problem becomes more identified that Person 1's problem really is Person 2, and not the dishes.  Then with a similar course of action by Person 2, Person 2 can ask more clarifying questions, this time concerning the Events of A, B, and C and help resolve the conflict.  

Now backing up a bit, say Person 1 had responded to Person 2's question of, "Do you feel that the dishes being dirty is the problem or is the problem the flaws you see in my character?" with "the dishes not being done is the problem, not you" then Person 2 could offer the idea that Person 1 could have cleaned the dishes and resolved the problem immediately.  

Notice how interaction with even just 1 centered person can open up the vision of someone seeing only between peripherals?

Okay, but now consider this. If Person 2 had shifted their focus over to Person 1 during the duration of the conflict, Person 1 would then come into their concern.  Seeing Person 1, Person 2 might realize that telling Person 1 that they could do the dishes on their own in the first place might upset Person 1, and if they were concerned about this, Person 2 might decide to do the dishes to please Person 1.  See what is demonstrated here?  Bringing other people into our vision, by shifting our focus off of ourselves, we have concern for them and their feelings.

Funny thing is, we call that a good thing.  However, if 2 people are both centered, their conflict resolution, as well as raw interaction would look something like this:






If both people were centered, and the dishes being dirty was the problem, it wouldn't matter who did them, because neither Person is inside of either's vision, only the dishes.

When we live centered, we don't need the concern for others.  Because if everyone were centered, the actions of others would NOT AFFECT us.  Actions may affect us, and that's what we could identify as needing modification, not the Person.  So to leave the Person out of it when discussing resolution, the Person creating the action would then realize they had the power to modify the action (as they were the cause), and change their actions accordingly for the desire of a different outcome. Never as a Personal Change because the Person would have never been the Problem.



Less time pointing fingers and more time spent on productivity.  We could look to creating a common goal instead of a common individual. Because, how boring?


You see?




When we remain with center focus, our PERCEPTION of the world is NOT LIMITED, nor is our PROJECTION of it. 





Because this (below) is able to take place...



                                              




This is then what happens:




The input from the world is interchangeable with our personal output, based upon our experiences.


Our input is interchangeable with our personal output, based on individual personal experience, so lets break this down..  We are all individuals in different parts of the world, all then with varying inputs.  So then, that must mean, with varying inputs we must all have varying outputs, yet we all live in the same world. What does this do to interaction?


See below.




Here you see, we all share the SAME WORLD, with different interchangeable input/outputs. 


When we come together, look at what comes into our vision!  Something we would not have in our sight otherwise!


ONE MORE TIME, if our individual input/output is interchangeable, then what happens to us?!  



We learn and grow.







Saturday, March 9, 2013

Fundamental Principles

As of lately I've really been contemplating this "idea" of happiness we supposedly all share... 

Let me start by making reference  to Will Smith's character, Christopher Gardner, in The Pursuit of Happiness...he says something very profound, so profound in fact that I caught it creating a whirlwind of thought inside of me.

Christopher Gardner-The Pursuit of Happiness: "It was right then that I started thinking about Thomas Jefferson on the Declaration of Independence and the part about our right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. And I remember thinking how did he know to put the pursuit part in there? That maybe happiness is something that we can only pursue and maybe we can actually never have it. No matter what. How did he know that?"



Now that, my friends, I call a travesty.




IN CONGRESS, JULY 4, 1776
The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America


We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.


As Americans, it is in Our Declaration of Independence, our fundamental declaration, to reserve the right to pursue happiness. But lets step back a second and really think about that. I believe, in my heart of hearts, that was written within the best of intentions, I really do, but lets think of just how mass defining that became?!  Lets break this down.


pur·sue  

/pərˈso͞o/
Verb
  1. Follow (someone or something) to catch or attack them.



First, according to the definition.. we could say to pursue happiness means to attack happiness.  Ironic, huh?  Pursing because of a want yet feeding its demise, possibly?

Okay, well also to pursue means to be without, right? Otherwise there would be no need to "catch".  Also, "to catch" then gives the means "to chase", which then meaning that something is ahead of us, therefore future.  So, even though our Declaration of Independence declares the preservation of the right of the pursuit of happiness, what do you think that implies?

Why doesn't it read "The right to be happy"?  Well then sure, the efforts of achievement or sustainability could end up in debate.  So why not say, "The right to the be happy as well as the terms that of which are self defined."  If its "terms" that then is up for question as being immoral or politically incorrect then wouldn't "pursuit" be subjected to the same interpretation?

What I'm getting at here is the question of whether or not our nation's definition of happiness has been defined in accordance with its Declaration obtain-ability right.  As Americans, do we truly believe that happiness always lies one step ahead of us?  As only a pursuit? That to achieve happiness we have to strive for an accomplishment and hope that its there?  It makes sense in our capitalistic world.  Be rich, have a big house, have nice cars, get married, all various standards that we are set to follow.  But isn't happiness our main goal, as people, as humans?  Isn't that the underlining motivation to our every action?  We go to school because its set by standard, so we do it to please.  We get married in hopes to not be alone because that's "miserable", therefore a marry for happiness.  For so long we have correlated our actions with pursuits of happiness that its completely logical to question if it truly is obtainable.  

What happens along the way?  Or when we buy the big house or marry the spouse?  Its not like we think Eureka!  I am now forever happy! Hell no, we find the next challenge.  Some of us do find ourselves in various states of happy, but we find something else to work for to increase that happiness.  Which I'm by no means devaluing determination or the need of continuously being challenged, but if you think by accomplishing the next step is going to make things better for yourself emotionally, you are mistaken.  The value of challenging oneself or constantly striving finds its value in experience, which is knowledge.  

Knowledge and Happiness are two different things.

So then, when we don't find our happiness, or when its not given to us, we project blame.  We become bitter.  We curse the system, each other, or ourselves.  So then, instead of happiness we CHOOSE to feel bitter.

What is feeling?  Emotion.


e·mo·tion  

/iˈmōSHən/
Noun
  1. A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.



"Deriving from circumstances, mood, or relationships with others." 

First.  Lets throw mood out of there while I make my point here because one's mood is relative and has to live in conjunction with other factors. 

Circumstances as well as relationships with others both live OUTSIDE OF SELF.  

So then, how we feel on things, as we've defined in our English Language is that FEELING is derived from OUTSIDE SOURCES.  That then leads me to ask, if OUTSIDE SOURCES, marriage, cars, jobs, relationships, etc are not making us happy, then they are also what makes us bitter or angry, right?  But then, why is it that people that have all the things that we strive our whole lives for have happiness, but then others do not?

The answer lies in perception.


per·cep·tion  

/pərˈsepSHən/
Noun
  1. The ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses.
  2. The state of being or process of becoming aware of something in such a way.
Synonyms
realization - understanding - comprehension



"in such a way"

So isn't it then that we base our happiness on achievements based on the outcomes we see them have on others?  Logical enough.  If the relationship of X and Y has the outcome of Z, then if I have X and Y then I will have Z as well.  Stated that way, it makes complete sense.  But since we are speaking in the terms of challenges, I challenge you to ask Addition how well that worked out for him when he looked at the life of Division.


Think about it.  We all are individuals, and even if we aren't looking at each other in hopes of learning how to be happy, we are following standards that have been set for us in this life.  We all follow a similar life latter.  Go to school, go to college, get a job, make money, get married, have kids, retire, be cared for by our kids, then die.  But if that's set for us, then its not decided by us, as individuals.  Yes, we CHOOSE TO PARTICIPATE. But we do not form our own latter based on pure self evaluation.  But yet, but choosing to participate we hope to find happiness.  If by following that process true happiness is found, then I consider that dumb pure luck, and congrats.

Okay so.  This is all spelled out.  Happiness comes from inside.  Sitting in self-spection and evaluating TRUE WANTS, TRUE NEEDS.  Not bringing in any sort of outside influence to compare and contrast.  This process has been defined all throughout time.  Meditation, Prayer, Union with God, Finding Center, Peace, the list goes on.  But that's not what this post is about.

Okay so what? Be Happy.  That's wisdom that you can find on drug store coffee mugs, but we right it off.  Just be you, hell, just be happy. Everything I'm saying here makes utter and complete sense. Now what? Throw everything that sits outside of us away? Pay it no mind?  HARDLY.  That's missing the point all together.  Not only would it be impossible since we are subjected to maneuvering through the material/social world.

That's where the confusion comes in. We have completely disregarded the difference in definitions of two monumental human experiences. Here we are, century after century looking to ACHIEVE happiness when all along HAPPINESS IS OUR NATURAL STATE. Here's the kicker...




happiness  

Web definitions
state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.



Take notice to the scale. Happiness range: (0) contentment ----> (10) intense joy.

If happiness is our natural state, we can be no less than content.


Next, the word "enjoyment" comes from the root word "joy".




Joy
noun
1.
the emotion of great delight caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure; elation: She felt the joy of seeing her son's success.
2.
a source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated: Her prose style is a pure joy.
3.
the expression or display of glad feeling; festive gaiety.






Okay, so here you see, joy is "caused by something."



We have replaced enjoyment with happiness, leaving happiness' original placement as a VOID.  Let that sink in.

Or in other words

                                                       
But by replacing Happiness with Enjoyment.. 

So do you see where the "empty" feeling comes from? By projecting happiness outside of ourselves.  Also do you see how Happiness being outside of Self makes it only live in the realm of pursuit?  It then lives outside of us, we can be near it, but not immersed by it.  And notice how enjoyment is completely gone?  Completely logical, yet we as a mass we have yet to shift our thinking.  Mind boggling.

That, my friends, is where the outside influence fits. If we are living in our already "happy" state we then can ENJOY outside things. You don't enjoy things when you are grumpy. And if happiness is achieved by an outside influence, it has to be taken. Think about this. Happiness is an emotion, meaning something we feel inside of us. So for something to make us happy we have to essentially, bring it in. Also, if we got it from the outside, we had to "take", right?

(Explain to me how a house can fit inside of a person, please.) (Guess this explains why everyone is "happy" during the actual physical act of sex.)

Lets talk about relationships, for the sake of an example.

If you think someone makes you happy, meaning you were not happy before them, they had to give you something, right?

So to not be happy before them, you were essentially missing something.  So a lack was fulfilled.  Let me demonstrate.

This demonstrates how each person feels about themselves.

Person 1 feels as if they are lacking the middle, which person 2 has.  Person 2 feels as if they are lacking the middle sides, which Person 1 has.  They each feel that they need these traits in a partner in order to be happy, to achieve balance.  It is possible that neither Person 1 or 2 is even aware that they feel that they are lacking, they could only be aware of the feeling that they need a partner to have certain characteristics.  Person 1 could say I need a partner who has a middle.  They "think that's important".  But remember, for it to be a need, it stems from a lack.  

So coming together they think that they can create a sense of whole, which in turn can grant them happiness.

So then, by theory, this creates happiness.

Now, surrounded by happiness.

However, we are still talking about 2 individuals, remember.

So really, there isn't enough happiness to go around.  2 individuals but only 1 "Happiness".  Look at how much of each individual is now left without.



So, lets now put back the Responsibility of Self into its rightful state.


Both people are now shown in their Natural State of Happy.


Lets see what happens when they come together.

Enjoyment now has a place.

Isn't that our goal?  Enjoyment?

BE HAPPY and STRIVE for ENJOYMENT 

Apply the concept that I used to demonstrate relationships between people to relationships of all things.  A car isn't alive and doesn't have a natural "happy" state, so that being said, isn't it then up to question that if a car doesn't carry its own "happy" how can it then give it to us?  Because clearly, we have for so long confused happiness with enjoyment, thinking that adding something to our void would create happy, when really, the truth lies in adding something into our happy, to create enjoyment. 


That, my friends, is our foundation.




Again, just food for thought.




One last thought- If practice makes perfect, why do we practice anxiety in the hopes of achieving future happiness?  

What we practice, we master.